How To Ditch The Extremes & Start Living With Intention

“Holy freaking crap, why was I ever chasing the other things?”

Enter Nichole: a mom of 2 who finally ditched the “all or nothing” mentality and locked in her healthy lifestyle so that it became just what she does. As she says in the episode, we’ve all experienced the highs of living in the extremes. Think about the rush you feel on a Friday when you decide to throw your nutrition plan to the wind to meet your friends for pizza and margaritas without a care. Which leads to the excitement on a Monday, when you decide to start a new fitness routine & diet thinking this will finally be the one that sticks (spoil alert, it’s not).

Living in the middle - or the “boring” - is not sexy.

But once you’re there long enough it becomes more fulfilling than any extreme diet or fitness plan could ever be because it actually works. “Doing the extremes was not working. The boring is where it’s at.”

My client, Nichole, and I have had so many awesome coaching calls recently where she was dropping gems like this that I decided to invite her onto the podcast to share her story. Before we started working together, Nichole lived on the extremes of the spectrum: either she felt badly about herself and went onto a crazy crash diet with an intense exercise plan or she was on the opposite side where she didn’t want to restrict herself at all because it drained her mental health.

For years, she bounced back and forth between these two extremes with neither one of them feeling natural or satisfying. Because of that, she was a bit hesitant to start working together because she was nervous she’d lean toward the “do it all perfectly” side of things and burn out. But, as we started working together, Nichole has totally shifted her mindset to living in the middle where she doesn’t restrict herself, but also doesn’t eat everything she wants (or even doesn’t really want). And she doesn’t feel guilty for enjoying herself.

“I actually know how to eat. Like, I got this! That’s wild.”

Fast forward a few months and Nichole’s clothes are fitting better and she’s stuck with it for longer than she ever has before without guilt or shame. Even better, she’s not afraid that she’s going to fall off like she has before because it’s just become her normal. “It’s just what I do now.” And that’s pretty freaking cool!

I recorded an entire podcast episode with Nichole detailing the ways she was able to ditch the extremes and live with intention.